Identification with ego is the undoing of remembering your true being, Self. Your ego falsely believes the myth of separation and leaves you feeling small, isolated, unsupported, and vulnerable. Every fear, every pain, and every suffering registers in ego. Imagine ego as a shattered glass. The pieces represent aspects or parts of ego, of your personality self. They are strewn across your lifeline of experience. These aspects or parts hold painful feelings, fears, and negative beliefs. They Read more [...]
Every moment we are making choices, thousands of choices a day; choices of how to act or react to whatever crosses our path. Choices are how we define ourselves.
You can make choices consciously by being aware, weighing possibilities, assessing the desired outcome. This requires being present and aware in the moment. On the other hand, you can make choices unconsciously as a result of your negative thoughts and beliefs, expectations, attitudes, and fears. We do both.
Being Read more [...]
LITTER and CONSCIOUSNESS
When my daughter was 4 years old, we had a favorite book. We read it many times. It was one of those, “Mommy, again!” books. We had it memorized. It had beautiful illustrations of landscapes with blooming plants and a pond with gliding swans. It was magical; something out of Walt Disney. The message of this lovely book taught awareness, responsibility, and right action in a most effective way.
The first lesson showed a boy throwing his soda-pop top on the Read more [...]
Spring Surrounds Us
Spring is about renewal. As I walk down the street or the lane or through the woods, I am surrounded by the wonder of spring. I gaze in amazement as trees begin to flower and privets burst forth with the first sign of green. You see life edging out from what appears to be dead limbs. Everywhere there is promise of new life.
I look out the window and see a mama and papa goose with their brand new offspring strung out like pearls on a string between them floating Read more [...]
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I Will Never Let My Heart Be Broken Again
Last night I was listening to a song with the refrain, “Nothing in this world will ever break my heart again”. Sound familiar?
Who hasn’t made this pledge to themselves at one time in their life or another, or many times throughout their life? I know I have.
Take a moment and think back over your life to times when your heart has suffered from rejection, betrayal, and abandonment. I call them the unholy three of unavoidable human suffering. Read more [...]
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The Results are in on What Brings You Joy?
What brings me joy is:
-walking along the oceanfront
-an afternoon bubble bath
-an excellent meal
-walking in the woods
-hearing the birds sing
-bed socks on a winter night
-holding a sleeping baby
-cloudless summer sky
-the unique sound of a swan taking off and landing
-buds on trees
-the warmth of the sun
-riding ocean waves
-unobstructed view over Read more [...]
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Late Spring as Usual
The vine is moving.
the motion too slow to be visible
but it is racing, racing,
feeling for a way
across the wall of the fence it’s scrawling on,
inches added every day.
Forwarding, sunwarding, it claims its place.
Green states its claim.
It writes the lesson of the day: longing,
longing coming true while arcing
out and up according to the instruction of desire.
Sun-hungry Read more [...]
What Brings You Joy?
Awhile back, I started to take a joy inventory of my day each night. My inquiry would be to the question, “What brought me joy today? What brought me happiness today?” Somenights I felt satisfied that I had had enough joy and happiness in my day to call it a good day. However, I was disappointed to find many nights that my day was dismally lacking in joy. Dismally lacking in joy days were full of busy-ness, marked by tasks, unmemorable events and lacking in any Read more [...]
“What do I want?”
“What do I want?” is a defining question to ask yourself many times a day on many levels. Ask it in terms of what you want from life, what you want from your day, what you want towear, eat, and do. It can be an existential question, a practical question or a mundane question. But your answers define who you are and what you stand for and what is important to you.
The answer to this question sets your course in life since it is an intention and intentions are self-fulfilling Read more [...]
Take a moment and consider this question. What do you need more, to love or be loved? If you haven’t taken that moment, you still can before I tell you.
The need to love is more basic than the need to be loved. It is wonderful to be loved and we do need to be loved. But we have a deeper yearning to love.
I once had a poster with a photo of a precious baby and beautiful angel and this quote from the poem “The Angel that Presided ‘oer my Birth” by William Blake:
The Angel Read more [...]